It’ll surprise you a lot of opinions/values women have towards men yet claim they want a life partner. Statements such as ‘Men are trash’ have been commonly said that even men accept it with enthusiasm. I understand many women have been hurt, in ways perhaps unimaginable, by men and this is not okay. Opinions should be shared however it isn’t okay to wave a banner of judgements from past experience and claim it is a fact. Not only so, but after labelling all men as ‘trash’ many are delusional that they are prepared to be in a relationship. The cost of neglecting your emotional well-being in exchange for misandry cannot build or secure a healthy union.
A few days ago a woman posted pictures on social media showing four hours worth of meal prep she made for her husband. Amazed by this I liked the pictures and just as I was about to commend her for the effort she made, the comment section was littered by women accusing her of being a slave to her husband. Some commented they would never do such a thing, and others even made insinuations that her husband was ‘probably’ cheating on her. It is certainly eye opening just how incapable many women are in resolving bitter emotions they have towards men and therefore choose to spread this to other women. As if that isn’t enough they justify their negativity by hiding behind the mantra of “Men are trash”. To the extent that is has become almost a fashion statement and is worn on shirts.
We hear you loud and clear that men were ‘trash’ to you – yes. Now go and get your healing and allow women who are happy with their men to celebrate their joy.
I’ve been questioned “Why do you defend men?”, the question alone is incredible. How do you expect to truly love and appreciate your partner if I call him ‘trash’ at any given opportunity? How do you think your partner would feel, even if it wasn’t directed to him? What example do I give to your brother? Or better still, what are you saying about your brother when I scream that all men are ‘trash’? It is true that ‘Hurt people, hurt people’ and it is irking that many don’t think into future implications about what they say or the actions they make.
Now before a rally of cherry picking readers use my words out of context, I am not condoning the hurtful statements from both men and women. Rather what I am advocating is if a relationship is to be built by both parties mutual respect must be given, including statements. There should be wiser alternatives than jumping on a ‘trending’ bandwagons and promoting negativity.
Bitterness will not equate to honey nor will the scorn of a woman produce milk
© Akvsua 2017